Are You a Volunteer in the War Against Women?

by Carol Hess on March 8, 2015

In honor of International Women’s Day, March 8th


 There’s a war being waged against women.

 And it’s global.

 Sure, it’s more obvious in non-western countries, but you know what?  I prefer the more obvious, straight forward, unapologetic, and dare I say honest war being waged against women in those places.  Why?  Because it’s easier to battle the foe in front of you with his spear aimed straight at you, than the foe who stands behind you, ready to plunge a dagger in your back.

Here in the west, and I’m going to speak specifically about the United States since that’s the country I know best, women are engaged in guerrilla warfare that is so subtle and sneaky and dishonest that many of us don’t even know it’s going on.  This war is so well crafted and has been going on for so long that many of us refuse to believe it’s even happening.

But it is.

Worst of all, many of us are unwitting volunteers in this war on women.  We wage war on our mothers, grandmothers, sisters, daughters, aunts, girlfriends, nieces.  And the most heinous crime of all is the war we wage on ourselves.

 It makes me more than a little crazy.

And that’s why I’m in the business of self-empowerment.  I coach, guide, teach, encourage, and inspire women to play big in their lives – to stop settling for second (or twentieth) best, to stop playing the Nice Little Girl, and to start being the Powerful Woman I see and know them to be.

Why do I do this?

  • Because I settled for twentieth best most of my life.
  • Because I played The Nice Little Girl most of my life.
  • Because I was afraid to step into my power and let my light shine most of my life.

And then I almost died. 

I figured out just in the nick of time what I’d been doing to myself and why.  I discovered I was one of the walking wounded from a war that has been waged against women for millennia.  There was a reason why I didn’t know who I was or what I wanted, why I didn’t love or value myself very much, why I didn’t play big and become the woman I knew I could be, why I was so damned scared of my power and light (and still am if the truth be told).

Right then and there, I vowed to do everything in my power to stop participating in the war.  I decided to heal my wounds, discover who I was and why I was here, and do whatever it took to lead an empowered, meaningful life.  I deserved nothing less.

And neither do you.

I hope you will subscribe to this blog because right here, every week, I’m going to –

  • blow the whistle on the war being waged against us,
  • talk about how we not only disengage from participating in that war, but how we actively oppose it,
  • reveal what I did to heal myself and what I do every day to keep stepping into my power and allowing my light to shine, and
  • outline the steps every single one of us can take to empower ourselves, to become the women we know we can be, and to live the kind of lives we dream about living.

 Together we can win this war.  Alone, we don’t stand a chance.

 And you know what?

 The future of this planet is at stake.  We’ve GOT to win this war.  And we’ve got to win it NOW.  We’re running out of time.

 Are you in? 

 Then sign up for the blog.  Leave a comment below.  Drop me an email.  Hell – do something radical and pick up the phone and call me!

And PLEASE pass the message. Please share this post with all the women (and men) you love and respect.

by Carol Hess


Categories Personal Empowerment, The Art of Star Polishing, Weighing In (Rants & Raves)

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avatar Marie March 8, 2015 at 3:56 pm



avatar Carol Hess March 8, 2015 at 5:44 pm

Thank you, Marie. I like the word powerful!


avatar Jacqueline Conroy March 8, 2015 at 4:01 pm

Brilliant! Happy International Women’s Day Carol


avatar Carol Hess March 8, 2015 at 5:44 pm

Thank you, Jacqueline. I appreciate your kind words.


avatar Jan Deelstra March 8, 2015 at 4:58 pm

You are, and you powerfully write of, the type of women I have worked to empower since 1984. And just as the sign the woman holds says, I too cannot believe I am still fighting this same shit. The most evident issue to me is that too often, women are raising their own oppressors. WE either allow, or we DON’T. And even such subtleties as the now common use of the word “bitches” to describe every thing from the NFL players (“my bitches”) or other women referring to friends as “bitch” or in anyway being ignorant of the power contained in the use of words. It’s not innocent. It’s repressive contribution to a (STILL) real issue that kills. “THINK.” That’s the action I would like women globally to take. THINK. How are YOU helping others to repress you? What responsibility do we each own as being our part of the problem? Bravo Carol, for having the ovaries to post this. Happy International Women’s Day (a day, which COINCIDENTALLY is shorted by an hour in the USA…. Still not equal!) 😉


avatar Carol Hess March 8, 2015 at 5:50 pm

You’re so correct, Jan. Certain words are very powerful and need to be used with great caution. It’s so easy to become an unwitting collaborator in our own oppression. But I think the tide is turning. Awareness is greater than it’s ever been, even if we lost an hour of our special day here in the US. Let’s use the extra hour in the fall to fight against the war on women. What do you say? Thank you, Jan, for joining the conversation here at Star Polisher.


avatar Kimbalie March 10, 2015 at 10:02 am

They way you write speaks to me. I’m glad you’ve started blogging again on this day of Women. I am inspired to start again too.
Great work Carol.


avatar Carol Hess March 10, 2015 at 12:47 pm

As a writer, there’s nothing better than to know your writing inspired someone to start writing again. Woo hoo, Kimbalie! Go for it!


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