Don’t Say I Didn’t Warn You!

by Carol Hess on April 8, 2015

Last June I had a bad car accident which could have killed me. Instead I walked away from it. My recovery was long and forced me to slow down and spend a good deal of time in stillness.

We all know that nothing good can come from slowing down and getting still, right? The Truth with a capital T has a way of surfacing, and that’s exactly what happened to me.

My Truth? Although I’ve enjoyed what I’ve been doing with Star Polisher, it isn’t my passion. Communications consulting, writing, and editing are more like a mini passion for me. They aren’t the big kahuna.

My Passion with a capital P is and always has been the empowerment of women.

  • After all, haven’t I spent the last 20 plus years of my life learning how to empower myself? Yes.
  • And hasn’t my star polishing always boiled down to one thing – the empowerment of my clients? Yes.
  • And do I not believe to the bottom of my toes that the world is in desperate need of more empowered women? Yes.

So I threw my spear in the ground this past fall. I made the decision that Star Polisher was going to shift away from communication and embrace women’s empowerment. And then I declared this decision out loud to a few trusted individuals I knew wouldn’t let me off the hook.

“When you want something, all the Universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.” Paul Coelho, The Alchemist

Ain’t that the Truth with a capital T!

I’ve spent the last several months thinking I had really nailed the whole reinvention of Star Polisher thing, that I knew exactly where I was going with this whole empowerment of women thing. And then the Universe stepped in and proved I was Wrong with a capital W.

It would shine its light on a slightly different path going in a slightly different direction, and I would realize I had been playing small. The Universe was asking me to step up my game a little more and a little more and a little more.

That’s pretty ironic considering my empowerment work with women is about exactly that — encouraging and inspiring my clients to play bigger and step up their game.

“We teach best what we most need to learn.” Richard Bach, Illusions: The Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah

So just the other day I was feeling quite proud of myself and doing just a wee bit of resting on my well-deserved laurels. No one could accuse me of playing small and not giving it my all!

  • After all, hadn’t I willingly met the challenge to become a public speaker on behalf of women’s empowerment? I had.
  • And hadn’t I agreed to walk back into corporate America to carry the message to the women there? I had.
  • And hadn’t I been taking my business so seriously that this self-admitted, go-it-alone, control freak had hired people to help with marketing and the website? I had.

But that resting on my laurels was a big mistake! The Universe isn’t a fan of complacency or the comfort zone.

The next thing I know I’m having a phone conversation with a business coach I’ve never met before. And she says, “Carol, I’m just going to tell it like I see it. I think you can take it.”

Uh oh.

“Star Polisher is too small a brand for you. It’s not big enough for who you are, what you do, your experience, your perspective.”

Okay, I’m listening in a wary kind of way.

She continued. “You’re hiding behind Star Polisher. You need to do business under your own name.”

The minute she said it, I knew she was right. This Truth with a capital T had been nibbling around the edges of my consciousness the last few weeks, and I had ignored it.

“But CarolHess.com is already taken,” I feebly countered.

“What’s your middle name,” the coach wanted to know.

“My mother’s maiden name, Chesney.”

“So Carol Chesney Hess is your name?”

“Um, yes,” I gulped.

Damn it! The minute the coach said Carol Chesney Hess out loud, I knew she was right. That was the name under which I was meant to be doing business. I could feel it deep in my belly, where my Truth with a capital T lives. Damn it, damn it, damn it!

“But I have some issues with that side of my family,” I said so quietly I was almost whispering.

“You have to own all of yourself, right? After all, isn’t that what empowerment is all about? Owning all of who you are?”

Of course that’s what the coach responded. My Wise Woman Within had whispered that particular Truth with a capital T milliseconds earlier.

So there you have it.

Star Polisher is becoming Carol Chesney Hess. One of these days, you’ll see a new website and a new logo to prove it. Stay tuned.

By the way, I’m going to keep using the star polishing metaphor because it’s what I do with my clients. After all, when you aren’t a star in your own eyes, you can’t shine.

So that’s why I’m going to continue to lead you to that place where you can discover the star that you are. And we’re still going to polish your star until you’re blasting the world with your light, because one thing hasn’t changed and never will.

The world needs your light.

In the meantime, I just want you to know. This playing bigger thing? This self-empowerment thing? It’s like exercise. Or potato chips. Once you start, you can’t stop. The Universe won’t let you.

Don’t say I didn’t warn you!

If you’re feeling like it’s time to play bigger, to step up your game, you don’t have to go it alone. This is what I do – this is my Passion with a capital P – to accompany, encourage, guide, inspire women like yourself who are ready to empower themselves once and for all.

 And I’m darned good at it. (The empowered woman doesn’t engage in self-effacing, false modesty.) Click the link below to schedule a free half-hour phone chat with me. No cost, no obligation, no high-pressure sales tactics. Simply a conversation to figure out where you are, where you want to be, and if I can help you get there.

https://www.timetrade.com/book/F3Q2S

 

by Carol Hess

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Categories Personal Empowerment, The Art of Star Polishing

Are You a Volunteer in the War Against Women?

by Carol Hess on March 8, 2015

In honor of International Women’s Day, March 8th

 

 There’s a war being waged against women.

 And it’s global.

 Sure, it’s more obvious in non-western countries, but you know what?  I prefer the more obvious, straight forward, unapologetic, and dare I say honest war being waged against women in those places.  Why?  Because it’s easier to battle the foe in front of you with his spear aimed straight at you, than the foe who stands behind you, ready to plunge a dagger in your back.

Here in the west, and I’m going to speak specifically about the United States since that’s the country I know best, women are engaged in guerrilla warfare that is so subtle and sneaky and dishonest that many of us don’t even know it’s going on.  This war is so well crafted and has been going on for so long that many of us refuse to believe it’s even happening.

But it is.

Worst of all, many of us are unwitting volunteers in this war on women.  We wage war on our mothers, grandmothers, sisters, daughters, aunts, girlfriends, nieces.  And the most heinous crime of all is the war we wage on ourselves.

 It makes me more than a little crazy.

And that’s why I’m in the business of self-empowerment.  I coach, guide, teach, encourage, and inspire women to play big in their lives – to stop settling for second (or twentieth) best, to stop playing the Nice Little Girl, and to start being the Powerful Woman I see and know them to be.

Why do I do this?

  • Because I settled for twentieth best most of my life.
  • Because I played The Nice Little Girl most of my life.
  • Because I was afraid to step into my power and let my light shine most of my life.

And then I almost died. 

I figured out just in the nick of time what I’d been doing to myself and why.  I discovered I was one of the walking wounded from a war that has been waged against women for millennia.  There was a reason why I didn’t know who I was or what I wanted, why I didn’t love or value myself very much, why I didn’t play big and become the woman I knew I could be, why I was so damned scared of my power and light (and still am if the truth be told).

Right then and there, I vowed to do everything in my power to stop participating in the war.  I decided to heal my wounds, discover who I was and why I was here, and do whatever it took to lead an empowered, meaningful life.  I deserved nothing less.

And neither do you.

I hope you will subscribe to this blog because right here, every week, I’m going to –

  • blow the whistle on the war being waged against us,
  • talk about how we not only disengage from participating in that war, but how we actively oppose it,
  • reveal what I did to heal myself and what I do every day to keep stepping into my power and allowing my light to shine, and
  • outline the steps every single one of us can take to empower ourselves, to become the women we know we can be, and to live the kind of lives we dream about living.

 Together we can win this war.  Alone, we don’t stand a chance.

 And you know what?

 The future of this planet is at stake.  We’ve GOT to win this war.  And we’ve got to win it NOW.  We’re running out of time.

 Are you in? 

 Then sign up for the blog.  Leave a comment below.  Drop me an email.  Hell – do something radical and pick up the phone and call me!

And PLEASE pass the message. Please share this post with all the women (and men) you love and respect.

by Carol Hess

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Categories Personal Empowerment, The Art of Star Polishing, Weighing In (Rants & Raves)

A Work in Progress

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Wouldn’t You Rather Hear Me Instead of Read Me?

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Categories The Art of Star Polishing

Your Dimmer Switch

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Categories Personal Empowerment, The Art of Star Polishing, The Mind Game

Dark Night of the Soul Meets Law of Attraction

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Categories Carol's Musings, Personal Empowerment, The Mind Game, Weighing In (Rants & Raves)

A Love Letter to the People of Boston

Dear People of Boston, I’m sending you my love and thoughts and prayers. Love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love. Love is the only antidote I know to the fear that is the source of such horrible acts of terror.  And the only balm to soothe the grieving heart and soul.

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by Carol Hess

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To Let Go

My friend Sarah O’Leary over at Holistic Hot Sauce has written a great post on the art and science of letting go.  She inspired me to go poring through my files and come up with something I stumbled across years ago. The following is not original to me, and I have no idea where it came from.  […]

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Categories Authentic Power, Carol's Musings, Personal Empowerment

An Ode to Cranky & Cantankerous

Cranky.  Cantankerous.  Don’t you just love those words?  I like the sound of crotchety too. I come from a long line of women who tend to get cranky and cantankerous as they age.  I’m delighted to announce I’m there.  Just call me Crankypants Carol.  (Thank you, Sandi Amorim for crankypants.) Actually, I suspect my female […]

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Why Change Is So Damned Difficult & What to Do About It

The day I knew I was going to quit smoking once and for all, I was pissed.  I didn’t want to stop.  I loved smoking.  But I stopped anyway.  Why?  Because I knew it was time for a change. And guess what?  It wasn’t that difficult.  That change that I had always regarded as an […]

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Categories Carol's Musings, Personal Empowerment, The Art of Star Polishing, The Mind Game