Don’t Say I Didn’t Warn You!

by Carol Hess on April 8, 2015

Last June I had a bad car accident which could have killed me. Instead I walked away from it. My recovery was long and forced me to slow down and spend a good deal of time in stillness.

We all know that nothing good can come from slowing down and getting still, right? The Truth with a capital T has a way of surfacing, and that’s exactly what happened to me.

My Truth? Although I’ve enjoyed what I’ve been doing with Star Polisher, it isn’t my passion. Communications consulting, writing, and editing are more like a mini passion for me. They aren’t the big kahuna.

My Passion with a capital P is and always has been the empowerment of women.

  • After all, haven’t I spent the last 20 plus years of my life learning how to empower myself? Yes.
  • And hasn’t my star polishing always boiled down to one thing – the empowerment of my clients? Yes.
  • And do I not believe to the bottom of my toes that the world is in desperate need of more empowered women? Yes.

So I threw my spear in the ground this past fall. I made the decision that Star Polisher was going to shift away from communication and embrace women’s empowerment. And then I declared this decision out loud to a few trusted individuals I knew wouldn’t let me off the hook.

“When you want something, all the Universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.” Paul Coelho, The Alchemist

Ain’t that the Truth with a capital T!

I’ve spent the last several months thinking I had really nailed the whole reinvention of Star Polisher thing, that I knew exactly where I was going with this whole empowerment of women thing. And then the Universe stepped in and proved I was Wrong with a capital W.

It would shine its light on a slightly different path going in a slightly different direction, and I would realize I had been playing small. The Universe was asking me to step up my game a little more and a little more and a little more.

That’s pretty ironic considering my empowerment work with women is about exactly that — encouraging and inspiring my clients to play bigger and step up their game.

“We teach best what we most need to learn.” Richard Bach, Illusions: The Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah

So just the other day I was feeling quite proud of myself and doing just a wee bit of resting on my well-deserved laurels. No one could accuse me of playing small and not giving it my all!

  • After all, hadn’t I willingly met the challenge to become a public speaker on behalf of women’s empowerment? I had.
  • And hadn’t I agreed to walk back into corporate America to carry the message to the women there? I had.
  • And hadn’t I been taking my business so seriously that this self-admitted, go-it-alone, control freak had hired people to help with marketing and the website? I had.

But that resting on my laurels was a big mistake! The Universe isn’t a fan of complacency or the comfort zone.

The next thing I know I’m having a phone conversation with a business coach I’ve never met before. And she says, “Carol, I’m just going to tell it like I see it. I think you can take it.”

Uh oh.

“Star Polisher is too small a brand for you. It’s not big enough for who you are, what you do, your experience, your perspective.”

Okay, I’m listening in a wary kind of way.

She continued. “You’re hiding behind Star Polisher. You need to do business under your own name.”

The minute she said it, I knew she was right. This Truth with a capital T had been nibbling around the edges of my consciousness the last few weeks, and I had ignored it.

“But is already taken,” I feebly countered.

“What’s your middle name,” the coach wanted to know.

“My mother’s maiden name, Chesney.”

“So Carol Chesney Hess is your name?”

“Um, yes,” I gulped.

Damn it! The minute the coach said Carol Chesney Hess out loud, I knew she was right. That was the name under which I was meant to be doing business. I could feel it deep in my belly, where my Truth with a capital T lives. Damn it, damn it, damn it!

“But I have some issues with that side of my family,” I said so quietly I was almost whispering.

“You have to own all of yourself, right? After all, isn’t that what empowerment is all about? Owning all of who you are?”

Of course that’s what the coach responded. My Wise Woman Within had whispered that particular Truth with a capital T milliseconds earlier.

So there you have it.

Star Polisher is becoming Carol Chesney Hess. One of these days, you’ll see a new website and a new logo to prove it. Stay tuned.

By the way, I’m going to keep using the star polishing metaphor because it’s what I do with my clients. After all, when you aren’t a star in your own eyes, you can’t shine.

So that’s why I’m going to continue to lead you to that place where you can discover the star that you are. And we’re still going to polish your star until you’re blasting the world with your light, because one thing hasn’t changed and never will.

The world needs your light.

In the meantime, I just want you to know. This playing bigger thing? This self-empowerment thing? It’s like exercise. Or potato chips. Once you start, you can’t stop. The Universe won’t let you.

Don’t say I didn’t warn you!

If you’re feeling like it’s time to play bigger, to step up your game, you don’t have to go it alone. This is what I do – this is my Passion with a capital P – to accompany, encourage, guide, inspire women like yourself who are ready to empower themselves once and for all.

 And I’m darned good at it. (The empowered woman doesn’t engage in self-effacing, false modesty.) Click the link below to schedule a free half-hour phone chat with me. No cost, no obligation, no high-pressure sales tactics. Simply a conversation to figure out where you are, where you want to be, and if I can help you get there.


by Carol Hess


Categories Personal Empowerment, The Art of Star Polishing

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avatar Lisa MB April 8, 2015 at 9:11 pm

Wow and wow and WOW! Yay you! Proud of you for seeking YOUR truth and allowing yourself to step into it. Funny thing is, I’ve come to the same conclusions :). Focusing on the empowerment of women by helping them lived lives unmasked 😉 AND doing biz under my own name. Here’s to honoring our paths! xo


avatar Carol Hess April 8, 2015 at 9:28 pm

Great minds think alike, right, Lisa? Or else there’s something in the air. I think it’s both. And the world is ready for it/us!


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