It’s My Birthday!

by Carol Hess on July 19, 2012

It’s my birthday today, something I usually have very mixed feelings about.

Don’t get me wrong.  I’m always glad I’m alive to make the milestone, even more so now that I’m a cancer survivor.  But some years I’m happier about it than others, mainly because of where I find myself on my Possibilities and Potential Meter.

If the year ahead is looking juicy from the point of view of opportunities and new experiences, then I’m more excited to be about to enter into it.  If the year ahead is more of the same old same old, then I’m more a bored and blasé birthday girl.  This year is one of those off the Possibilities and Potential Meter years, so I’m very excited to see what the next twelve months brings.

Birthdays have always been a mixed bag for me.  When I was a child, it was hard having a birthday in the summer.  If we were home in Philadelphia for the big day, then most of my friends were out of town on vacation somewhere cooler that involved water.  My mother would end up assembling the motliest of motley group of kids just to have a reasonable number of guests at my party.

If we were up in Maine at my grandparents’ summer place, then my birthday was much better.  There were all sorts of cousins and old summer friends with which to enjoy my day.  In fact, my mother had the opposite problem.  Who could she exclude so she and Dad wouldn’t have to mortgage the house to pay for the lobsters?  Yes, this birthday girl always wanted a lobster for her birthday and got it.  Okay, so maybe I was (am) a little bit spoiled.  (Going for lobster #2 tonight!)

But, when it came to celebrating my birthday, I think what was the real problem for me was all the attention I received.  I was an only child, and my mother was damned if she was going to raise a spoiled child.  So she over-compensated just a tad and taught me to be very uncomfortable when I was the center of attention.

It’s kind of hard to avoid being the center of attention when it’s your birthday and your party.  Unless, of course, I shared the festivities with my Uncle Pete.  His birthday was the day after mine, so my mother frequently hosted a combined birthday party.  Pete was one of those life of the party type people who pretty much sucked up all the attention at our joint birthday parties.  As a child I was relieved.  As an adult it pissed me off.

See?  There are those mixed feelings about receiving attention.  As I get older and wiser, I become more comfortable with receiving attention and love.  This year, my birthday festivities started early and won’t be ending until after this weekend.  I’m surprising myself how much I’m looking forward to being celebrated for that long in that many different ways by that many different people.  I’ve decided I’m worth it!

Holy moly!  What did I just type?  “I’ve decided I’m worth it.”  When did that incredible shift take place?  I can tell it’s been coming for a while, gradually.  I can tell by looking at the progression of people in and out of my life the last several years.  Perhaps my best birthday present of all this year is realizing that I have never had so many amazing, loving, inspiring people supporting me and cheering me on as I enter my new year.

And the best part about it?  They value the real me.  They get the real me.  They love and support the real me.  And that’s because this past year I’ve worked very hard to get more authentic, be more in integrity, and step more into my power.

Do I have a way to go?  Of course.  This is the kind of journey where you never reach your destination.  And thank goodness for that because look at all the fantastic people I’m meeting and gathering to me along the way.

That means you too, dear readers of my blog.  I appreciate each and every one of you.  Thanks for being here this year.  I look forward to continuing to walk the path with you in the coming year.  It’s going to be an exciting journey for Star Polisher and for myself, and I’m delighted you’re going to be accompanying us.  Happy Birthday to me!  :)

When you look around, who do you see accompanying you on your journey?  If we are the sum of the five people we spend the most time with, are you content with your traveling companions or is it time to mix things up a bit?  Please feel free to share in the comments below.  I love it when you do!  :)



by Carol Hess


Categories Carol's Musings, The Art of Star Polishing

{ 25 comments… read them below or add one }

avatar Sandi Amorim July 19, 2012 at 10:07 am

I am so, so glad I get to be one of those 5 people Carol! You are a gift my friend and it’s been amazing to witness this journey you’ve been on. It means more Carol and Star Polishing goodness for the rest of us and a vibrant, shining life for you!

Happy Birthday dearheart, let’s celebrate many more together, ok?



avatar Carol Hess July 19, 2012 at 11:57 am

Okay. Sniff, sniff. Thank you, Sandi. You’re precious to me too. I love you.


avatar Nikki July 19, 2012 at 11:20 am

You’re damn right you’re worth it, gorgeous one xoxox so much love and birthday happiness to you xoxox


avatar Carol Hess July 19, 2012 at 11:58 am

Thank you, Nikki. Right back at you, Gorgeous One.


avatar Jenny July 19, 2012 at 1:03 pm

Happy Birthday, Beauty! It’s an honor to be here to celebrate it with you…and to celebrate YOU!

Enjoy that lobster. Use way too much butter. And don’t skimp on dessert. Life’s precious and you’re a part of the reason why.

Sending love & light your way today, and every day.


avatar Carol Hess July 19, 2012 at 2:07 pm

Aww, gee, thanks, Jenny. So glad you are part of my celebration. Dessert, yes. Butter, no. I’m a purist. Well, maybe just a little (butter that is — not purity!). :)


avatar Sandi Amorim July 19, 2012 at 7:37 pm

Did someone say lobster and dessert? I’m there!


avatar Carol Hess July 19, 2012 at 8:05 pm

The lobster was great. I couldn’t do the dessert. Must be getting old. . . . . or sensible. Don’t know which is worse!


avatar Stephanie July 19, 2012 at 1:15 pm

Happiest of happy birthdays to you, my friend. You are transforming before our very (virtual) eyes by honoring your decision to be true to your magnificent self. Celebrate you today and every single day!
Here’s a little silliness for you …

There once was a starpolisher named Carol,
Who stood high atop of bright barrel.
She reached for the stars and flew right past Mars.
Leaving Lizzie B. in quite a peril.


Sail on!

Big love and many hugs,


avatar Carol Hess July 19, 2012 at 2:09 pm

Well, would you look at you? Steph, the poet. I had no idea. Thank you for my birthday poem. I love the message!


avatar Stephanie July 19, 2012 at 2:12 pm

There’s so much you don’t know about me. LOL


avatar Carol Hess July 19, 2012 at 2:27 pm

I know. It scares me! :)


avatar Stephanie July 19, 2012 at 4:59 pm

Good response! 😉

avatar Cigdem Kobu July 19, 2012 at 4:31 pm

Happy Birthday, dear Carol! I’m sure the year in front of you will be juicier than ever! So glad you were born, and so glad I got to know you! xo


avatar Carol Hess July 19, 2012 at 8:02 pm

Thank you, Cigdem. :)


avatar Marie July 19, 2012 at 5:14 pm

Always loved you for being you. We had fun together.


avatar Carol Hess July 19, 2012 at 8:04 pm

That we did. Are you going to be around this weekend? I’ll be on the island. Would love to see you.


avatar Marie July 19, 2012 at 5:15 pm

Happy Birthday!!!!!!!!!!!!!


avatar Carol Hess July 19, 2012 at 8:04 pm

Thanks, Marie! :)


avatar Joanna Saunders July 19, 2012 at 8:03 pm

What a beautiful birthday declaration. I wish you much business growth and much personal growth too. I loved when you said “I decide I am worth it” because you are. Love Joanna


avatar Carol Hess July 26, 2012 at 5:00 pm

I loved when I said it too, Joanna! :) Thank you so much. (Sorry for the late reply. My original one never got published, and I just noticed.)


avatar John Jones July 19, 2012 at 8:33 pm

Now that you’ve broadcast to the world that it’s your birthday, I’m surprised you don’t have a zillion posts! I also noticed that none of the posts (up to this one) have come from any males – so I will break that pattern – and wish you a very happy (and lobster-filled?) birthday!


avatar Carol Hess July 20, 2012 at 12:11 am

Hey there, John. Thanks for breaking the all-female pattern. We needed a little counter-balancing male energy! Sorry I missed your call tonight. I’ll give you a call when I get back — I’m going away for the weekend. Thank you for BOTH birthday calls. It’s so great getting back in touch with you. :)


avatar Susan Johnson July 19, 2012 at 8:55 pm

Well, I’m not male and unfortunately I wasn’t able to share the lobster but I can attest to the “real you” being totally and completely amazingly awesome! And hell yeah, you deserve it – and more! Have a wonderful time celebrating and soaking up all that attention. Enjoy my friend and may the next year be off the charts, rock star, fabulous! ox


avatar Carol Hess July 20, 2012 at 12:13 am

Susan, one of my best presents on this birthday was talking to you! :) Yes, I will indeed take it all in. That’s what birthdays are for!


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