Season to Taste

by Carol Hess on September 26, 2012

I’m not a fan of balance and moderation.  Give me off-kilter and extreme every time.  I’m not wired for a careful, middle-of-the-road kind of life.  I tried it once and had to smoke way too many cigarettes and drink way too much booze to keep my bus straddling the yellow line.

Gusto, passion, joy, bliss.  Those aren’t words of balance.  Pouring your heart and soul into something doesn’t have much to do with moderation.

Great human endeavors aren’t the stuff of balance and moderation.  Faraway worlds don’t get explored, beautiful art doesn’t get created, horrific diseases don’t get cured, great love affairs don’t get experienced by bowing down to the gods of balance and moderation.

Living a balanced life requires a lot of planning.  The great spiritual leaders tell us to stay present, be in the moment, live in the now.  That’s nigh on impossible to do if you’re in planning mode most of the time.

If you’re going to hang on to moderation, you’re going to be exerting a lot of control (or trying to) over yourself, your partner, your kids, your boss, your friends.  The energy of life isn’t exactly random chaos, but it does move around a lot and in surprising ways.  I can’t imagine trying to control it.  Talk about setting yourself up to fail.

Being a control freak is not what I would recommend, if you want to be happy or loved.  And let’s face it.  That’s the real Holy Grail you and I are looking for – happiness and love.  I’m not sure the pursuit of balance and moderation will deliver either of those to our out-stretched hands.

Tthe messy, emotional, radical, juicy bits of life –the good stuff that adds flavor to life – don’t taste like balance and moderation.  They smack of surrendering, letting go, going all out, going all in, walking on the edge, leaping off the edge.

Don’t get me wrong.  I’m not advocating you throw out balance and moderation completely.  Just don’t make a steady diet of it.  Into every life a little spice must fall.

Season your life to taste.

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by Carol Hess


Categories Life Balance, Personal Empowerment

{ 12 comments… read them below or add one }

avatar Ellen Berg September 26, 2012 at 11:49 am

I don’t believe in balance or moderation; I believe in listening to our bodies and spirits and feeding them what they need. I know I’m at my best when I’m lit up, on fire for whatever I’m doing, and when I’m in that zone I’m receiving plenty of energy. I let someone question that one time and scaled back–may be the only regret I have in life.


avatar Carol Hess September 26, 2012 at 12:13 pm

You’re right, Ellen. Listening to our body and our spirit is key. They don’t lie.


avatar Staci Boden September 26, 2012 at 12:04 pm

I’m (clearly) big into letting go of control and surrendering so we can experience life differently. People in my world say, “If you’re not living on the edge, you’re taking too much space!”

Regarding balance, I think there are a couple of kinds. The balance you describe is something on the outside we’re taught to achieve through controlling life. No, thanks. There’s another kind of balance that resides inside ourselves, a state of being related to presence. Ah, yes.

Soul provoking post, thanks.


avatar Carol Hess September 26, 2012 at 12:16 pm

Love it — “If you’re not living on the edge, you’re taking too much space.” I’m going to start saying that — a lot! :) I love the point you make, Staci, about the kinds of balance. Yes, that internal balance is something very different and very beautiful. So glad to have you joining into the conversation here.


avatar Doreen Fulton September 26, 2012 at 5:35 pm

I love adding spice to life!! Let’s go for the gusto and the hot tamale!!


avatar Carol Hess September 27, 2012 at 6:24 am

Go for the gusto. Wasn’t that a manly beer commercial way back when? But then I guess a beer goes well with a hot tamale. :)


avatar Linda Crawford September 26, 2012 at 6:52 pm

YES Carole HESS…now your talking sister…love this one…I’ve been there trying so damn hard as I was striving for balance and moderation…and that’s the point trying too hard…trying TOO HARD for anything is draining and not the program I aspire too…I’m ON the highway not TO heaven but already there right here right now no matter what – thanks for spicing things up a wee bit…love it and love YOU! :) Groove ON


avatar Carol Hess September 27, 2012 at 6:28 am

It’s kind of ironic that trying too hard for balance and moderation can lead to — imbalance and lack of moderation. So glad we don’t have to fall into that trap any longer, aren’t you, Linda? Thanks for bringing the Groovy Goddess energy here to Star Polisher, my friend.


avatar Heidi Little September 27, 2012 at 9:54 am

Love this! Makes one think about what we ‘need to control’ and what we need to let go of… Thank you for allowing me to examine behaviors in myself and others :-) Have a wonderful day!


avatar Carol Hess September 27, 2012 at 12:58 pm

Your comment, Heidi, reminds me of the wonderful Serenity Prayer. “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” Here’s another version I made up for me. “God, grant me the serenity to accept the people I can not change (which is everybody), the courage to change the one person I can (me, myself, and I), and the wisdom to remember this prayer!”


avatar Maeve September 27, 2012 at 4:09 pm

Carol, I sooo LOVE how you write! I used to wonder what all this ‘balance’ talk was about and felt I was inadequate because I didn’t get it. Then I heard that balance really means nothing much is happening. For example, when I was a child I used to love playing on the see-saw (I think you call them teeter totters or some such thing), well if the seesaw (teeter totter) is always in balance, then there’s no movement and very little fun – so then I started to feel not so bad about not living in balance 😉


avatar Carol Hess September 27, 2012 at 5:20 pm

Funny you should mention seesaws (we use that word too, along with teeter totters). I actually was visualizing a seesaw as I wrote this post and was going to include something about it and didn’t. Instead, we get the benefit of your wisdom, Maeve. Much better! :) You make an excellent point about the lack of movement and fun when it comes to balance.


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