Self-Care Equals Self-Love

by Carol Hess on November 3, 2011

(This post was prompted by the 66-Day Self-Care Program started by C.A. Kobu and Sandi Amorim on October 31st. If you would like to join the challenge, it’s definitely not too late. Not only do you get the support of the 66-Day community, but you can also download the workbook C.A. prepared especially for the challenge. For more information and/or the workbook, click on the program link above. You can also follow the Twitter conversation at #66days.)

I created the following mnemonic to keep me on track during my 66-Day Self-Care Program, which I renamed my 66-Day Self-Love Program.  Perhaps it will help you on your self-care journey.

S = Small

Small, consistent changes make big differences.  If you are patient with yourself and your process, you will get where you want to go.

E = Encouragement

Encouragement, not criticism motivates.  So sprinkle your self-care journey with lots of pats on the back, positive self talk, acknowledgment of successes, and even the occasional reward.

L = Live

Live in the present.  Just because your self-care efforts haven’t been completely successful in the past does NOT mean they won’t be successful now.  The past doesn’t determine the future.

F = Feelings

Feelings can motivate or sabotage you on your self-care journey. You have the freedom of choice.  You can choose what action you take in response to them.

L = Lead

Lead with your inner Wise Woman.  The Tyrant, the Judge, the Finger Wagger have proven themselves to be lousy guides on your self-care journey (or any other journey for that matter).

O = Open

Open your mind to a new way of doing things. The other day someone said, “If you want something you’ve never had, you’ve got to do something you’ve never done.”  So true.

V = Visualize

Visualize what you want to accomplish as a result of your self-care journey.  You’ve got to see it to believe it.  So does your subconscious, one of the most important members of your team.

E = Empower

Empower yourself by asking for help.  It’s time to drop the Lone Ranger act.  It isn’t working.  Together we can do what none of us can do alone.

Self-love.  That’s what it’s all about.



by Carol Hess


Categories Personal Empowerment, Self Care, The Art of Star Polishing

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avatar Sandi Amorim November 3, 2011 at 10:58 am

“Lead with your inner Wise Woman.”…love this line and the invitation it offers so effortlessly. Those others you mentioned, the motley crue of feeling bad – I’m turning the volume way down on those voices!

Love it Carol! Now I’m off to do my day 4 assignment!


avatar Carol Hess November 3, 2011 at 11:04 pm

It’s amazing, Sandi, how a little turning down the volume of the “motley crue” discourages them. They used to be much louder and much more insistent than they are now. Maybe someday (I know how you love that word ;-)) they will disappear altogether!


avatar C. A. Kobu November 7, 2011 at 2:47 pm

What a creative approach for keeping yourself on track, Carol!
And it’s so on-target.
Just shared it on multiple places!


avatar Carol Hess November 8, 2011 at 12:52 pm

Thanks, C.A. So glad you are spreading the word since you are the one who inspired me to begin with. I love how that works!


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