The Secret to Weight Loss (and Just About Everything Else)

by Carol Hess on February 16, 2012

Ten years ago, the therapist at the treatment center revealed the secret to weight loss to me, but I didn’t get it.  I wasn’t ready to really hear her wisdom, take it in, and act on it.  So I kept eating, and I kept gaining weight.  Everything I did to lose weight didn’t work – at least not in any meaningful way that led to permanent weight loss.

And then, slowly – very, very slowly – I started to get it.  Once I started to get it, I started to read about it.  Karen Anderson, a seasoned loser of weight and very wise woman, wrote about it in this must-read post.  Marianne Williamson, Geneen Roth, and Victoria Moran also wrote about it.  Lo and behold, the secret to weight loss (and just about everything else) is starting not to be so much of a secret after all.

But just in case you haven’t read Karen’s blog (and you really must, especially if you struggle with your weight) or any of the other great writers I’ve mentioned, I will humbly reveal the #1 weight loss secret to you.  Are you ready?  Here it is.  (Drum roll, please.)

It’s not about how much you eat or how much you weigh.  It’s about how much you love yourself.  It’s not so much your relationship with food that needs to change as it’s your relationship with yourself that needs to change.  Self-love.  That’s the big secret to weight loss (and just about everything else).

Yes, I know.  Believe me, I know.  It’s hard to love yourself when you’re a fat woman in a fat-phobic society.  It’s hard to love yourself when you keep breaking your dieting word to yourself.  It’s hard to love yourself when you hate what you see in the mirror.  But even though it’s hard, it’s what you’ve got to do.

I haven’t got this self-love thing figured out, that’s for sure.  But I’ve got just enough of it on board these days that I’m not going to give up on myself.  I’m tired of settling for second-best.  I’m going to love myself right into first-best health and a first-best life because that’s what I deserve.  And so do you.

There is one thing I am going to give up though and that’s my Lone Ranger act.  I can’t do this by myself.  I need help.  I need encouragement, inspiration, and a gigantic dose of empowerment.  And I know just where to find it – Green Mountain at Fox Run.  Check them out.  They are not your typical weight loss treatment center  They are much, much more.  And that’s why I’ve entered Karen Anderson’s contest to win one free week at GMFR.  Wow!  Keep your fingers crossed.

However, just in case I don’t win the contest, I’m going to get started right now today on “Carol’s Love Myself Lean Program.”  What about you?  Now that you know the secret to weight loss (and just about everything else), what are you waiting for?